Dating a married but separated man
Well the answer was she was very young, beautiful, had a great body, and it made him look great in public.
When they both first started having these conversations, he was against them. But after a number of months of her pushing the issue he finally sat down and they had this very conversation I’m talking filled with reality. I would have to be brutally honest and say that the odds are tiny. Because now he’s going into his eighth year of separation, with no date set for the actual divorce to take place.
You can make it a friends with benefits type of arrangement, were you both have the comfort of each other without any commitment whatsoever if that’s what you choose to do.
Or you can jump to the ultimatum, and see if they’re serious about following through with the words and actually ending their marriage that they’ve been separated from in the past. If you’re going to date someone who is still legally married, don’t be surprised when there’s constant chaos and drama in your relationship with this person.
( still married; just saying…) Now before anyone accuses me of picking on men, let me hasten to say that separated women can be just as “challenging” to date as separated men.
In fact, I pity any man who dated me when I was separated; I was messed up, and didn’t even know it!
She didn’t have to worry if her car broke down, she didn’t have to worry if she wanted plastic surgery because he would take care of all of her expenses.
I also encouraged her to talk openly to him about why he was so engaged, mesmerized by having her as a potential partner down the road.
If you’re dating someone who is separated, legally still married, they are emotionally unavailable. It’s simply means that they can’t give you 100% of their attention. They still have to give the attorneys, money plus effort, they still have to deal with their former wife or husband, and if they have children, they still have to put time into their family life.
They had initially fallen deeply in love, and he told her that once the divorce was final, that they could start talking about planning the rest of their life together. But if he hadn’t done it in the past seven years, where was the guarantee that he would do it now in a timely fashion?
So I encouraged her to have this brutally honest conversation, one of the reasons that she was attracted to him was because of the large amount of money he made, which meant going on multiple trips was effortless.
It is a process that requires time, self-awareness and hard work.
And there’s a strong chance your separated man has a long way to go.