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If you want your host to not make a move you could just mention how you have a boyfriend when you first meet him(even if you don't). I did get a request today and the guy had a bunch of really positive reviews, but as I looked closer I realized they were all from females that were around my age.
I then looked at his "Home" tab and realized he has his guests sleep in his bed with him.
Stay with the them-initiated host if and only if the hosting offer seems genuine with no ulterior motives. It definitely makes a good point about the differences between asking for help and someone approaching to 'help' you. The 2 times I hosted guys was when they stayed for one night.
I have learned to trust people a lot more through my travels, but Couchsurfing is a whole new ball game for me, so this has helped me clarify my perspective. I only hosted them so that my references wouldn't be all females in their 20s.
I've been trying to find more female hosts since I am a single female.
But the site definitely has a lot more males than females.
That said, I know I am in the minority for reaching out and almost always get the surfer I reach out to because I'm the good egg among all the sex-seeking invitations that surfer gets. Be the one to initiate contact and/or prescreen those who reach out to you. Another part of me wanted to get some experience with women.
For example: If someone reaches out to you and they sound cool and you are going to be in town for 4 days, have a you-initiated host for the first 2 days and invite them-initiated host to meet up with you for coffee during those initial two days, so you get a sense of what is up. I've never had female friends or had long relationships but I wanted to see what makes women tick. I was kind of afraid of initiating something and getting a negative reference.
Every so often, I experience a hosting lull and miss having the energy in the house that a passing surfer brings. My most recent surfer that I got this way went on to be invited by open request to a future host further along the trip (let's call this host Jake for the sake of ease of telling the story) and texted me when Jake had plied my former surfer with a lot of alcohol and was pushing further alcohol while asking questions like, "Have you ever performed a blowjob? Here, drink some more."At least this former surfer of mine knew that I was a safe person and even in the depths of alcohol induced poor reasoning knew something wasn't right and followed my advice and stayed safe for the night. OP (/u/jedentag16), please don't be like my former surfer! Genuine hosts like me are wayyyyyyyyyyyy too few and far between.
TL; DR What's the general rule of thumb, should a single woman accept offers from male hosts they haven't reached out to?
Or should you only accept to stay with people you have messaged directly?
" or "he doesn't have to know." I am guessing that you're a decent guy and you would never do that.
But damn, some people of your gender really do mess it up for you guys!